Am I A Hater?
Hater. It is arguably one of the most over-utilized terms in pop-culture conversation in recent years. Whether it’s during a heated debate about sports, fashion, or various pop-culture icons, the term is bound to surface when someone brings up a subject of controversy. Urbandictionary.com defines a “Hater” as a person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success, therefore making a point of exposing a flaw in that person. So let’s try it out. What’s your gut reaction to these topics?
- Miami Heat
- Nicki Minaj
- Straight leg/skinny jeans for men
- Barack Obama
- Joe Flacco
- Chris Brown
- Justin Beiber
The above mentioned topics have a tendency to push the limits of opinion and are easily associated with having haters. My guess is at some point in reading the list above, you had a knee jerk reaction to *sigh* or roll your eyes or express some degree of dislike. So, does that make you a hater?
Celebrity icons, like Kanye West, are infamous for prompting “hateration” amongst the masses, but what about when there is a Kanye-esque person in your family or on the job. When someone is bragadocious, grandiose, or ego-maniacal with the promotion, fancy car, and expensive labels to back it up, is it okay to be irritated? Does that make you a hater? Not exactly.
First, consider 3 caveats to determine if you’re a hater:
- the source of your irritation
- the response to their success
- the response to their failures/mistakes
For example, I am not a Kobe Bryant fan. I believe there is a fine line between confident and arrogant. In my humble opinion, he crosses it – often. Although I found his ““fifth ring” trash talk/banter with Barack Obama witty and good enough for a giggle, it’s arrogant. The source of my irritation with him is his cocky attitude — not his incredible ability to the play the game and experience success. So in considering caveat #1, I am not a hater.
His attitude and demeanor on the court (because I don’t know this man from a hole in the wall) rubs me the wrong way. So although I don’t consider him someone I would like to meet or converse with, I have a great appreciation for his success. He has been called one of the hardest working, most driven players in the game. His colleagues, coaches, and critics marvel at his work ethic. I have the upmost respect for that without a doubt. But I am not a fan, and I will likely never be a fan. I do not cheer for him, and when he experiences success I am not moved one way or another. With respect to caveat #2, I am not a hater.
Now, I have to be honest. If Kobe Bryant misses a game winning shot and walks away from the court with a tight face, lookin’ a little salty…I might smile inside. Confession: When it comes to Kobe Bryant, I’m a hater! Well at least I can own it. ;)
Closing Thought: Who are you “hating on”? OWN IT and post your confession in the comments.