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Am I A Hater?

Hater.  It is arguably one of the most over-utilized terms in pop-culture conversation in recent years. Whether it’s during a heated debate about sports, fashion, or various pop-culture icons, the term is bound to surface when someone brings up a subject of controversy.   Urbandictionary.com defines a “Hater” as a person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success, therefore making a point of exposing a flaw in that person.  So let’s try it out.  What’s your gut reaction to these topics?

  • Miami Heatkove
  • Nicki Minaj
  • Straight leg/skinny jeans for men
  • Kim-Ye
  • Barack Obama
  • Joe Flacco
  • Chris Brown
  • Justin Beiber

The above mentioned topics have a tendency to push the limits of opinion and are easily associated with having haters.  My guess is at some point in reading the list above, you had a knee jerk reaction to *sigh* or roll your eyes or express some degree of dislike.  So, does that make you a hater?

Celebrity icons, like Kanye West, are infamous for prompting “hateration” amongst the masses, but what about when there is a Kanye-esque person in your family or on the job.  When someone is bragadocious, grandiose, or ego-maniacal with the promotion, fancy car, and expensive labels to back it up, is it okay to be irritated?  Does that make you a hater?  Not exactly.

First, consider 3 caveats to determine if you’re a hater:

  1. the source of your irritation
  2. the response to their success
  3. the response to their failures/mistakes

For example, I am not a Kobe Bryant fan.  I believe there is a fine line between confident and arrogant.  In my humble opinion, he crosses it – often.  Although I found his “fifth ring” trash talk/banter with Barack Obama witty and good enough for a giggle, it’s arrogant.  The source of my irritation with him is his cocky attitude — not his incredible ability to the play the game and experience success.  So in considering caveat #1, I am not a hater.

His attitude and demeanor on the court (because I don’t know this man from a hole in the wall) rubs me the wrong way.  So although I don’t consider him someone I would like to meet or converse with, I have a great appreciation for his success. He has been called one of the hardest working, most driven players in the game.  His colleagues, coaches, and critics marvel at his work ethic.  I have the upmost respect for that without a doubt.  But I am not a fan, and I will likely never be a fan.  I do not cheer for him, and when he experiences success I am not moved one way or another.  With respect to caveat #2, I am not a hater.

Now, I have to be honest.  If Kobe Bryant misses a game winning shot and walks away from the court with a tight face, lookin’ a little salty…I might smile inside.  Confession:  When it comes to Kobe Bryant, I’m a hater! Well at least I can own it.  ;)

Closing Thought:  Who are you “hating on”?  OWN IT and post your confession in the comments.

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